Boring Stories Through A Rose-Colored Lens

When I look at my life, it hasn’t played out the way I expected. I never expected to become chronically ill, nor to meet the love of my life but not be able to marry (at least yet). I never expected to be paying property taxes and HOA dues while living with my in-laws, nor to be working in quality assurance. I never thought that, at age 34, I still wouldn’t have a dog.

If I look at my life through a critical lens, it would be easy to feel disappointed. But, instead, I’m rockin’ the rose-colored glasses. My life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, but I’ve learned to love dancing in the rain.

I was recently reminded of a on old English proverb that my grandmother would often recite. From there, I found myself thinking about her life. She grew up to brilliant, affluent, and well-connected parents, so her youth was filled with worldly adventure. Her adulthood, however, was filled with an suffering and sorrow that, I believe, broke her spirit. The rose-colored classes fell from her face and her joy slowly faded until it was replaced by a pervasive sadness.

Her children and grandchildren begged for stories. Sometimes, she would comply, sharing larger-than-life stories from her youth. More often than not, she held back. The stories were painful to recall, or not deemed exciting enough for her young audience.

While my life isn’t some magical fantasy, it’s a story I hope my future children and grandchildren would enjoy hearing. It’s a story that, even if they don’t want to hear, I intend to share.

The old proverb is about being a good listener. But, what does that really entail? Does being a good listener simply mean we shut our mouths, or is there more nuance to it? Join us over at the Heart of the Matter and join in the discussion on listening, understanding, and where family history falls into the mix.

14 thoughts on “Boring Stories Through A Rose-Colored Lens

  1. Being able to take what comes and roll with it is challenging. I would also guess that getting everything one wants or expects isn’t the answer either, is it Erin? I am a firm believer that the stories, all of them, should be shared. We owe that knowledge about ourselves and life decisions to our families.

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    1. I completely agree, Deb. Life is a series of up and downs, joy and disappointment, and everything in between. The best we can do is try to go with the flow. The older I get and the most I experience, the more I agree–all of our stories are worth sharing, and it’s important to do so.

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  2. You have a great attitude – and attitude is key in getting through the hardships in life. No life is perfect and while you have so many challenges to overcome, it’s wonderful you have a healthy perspective, optimism and humour. That is often half the battle.

    Your blog posts will also be a great wealth of material to draw from one day to share with your future generations to come. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thanks, Ab! We have limited control over what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. I figured out pretty quickly that a negative attitude only make things worse, so I actively try to seek out the good… and that *does* help.

      Yes, I hope that I’m capturing little shards of my story that I can one day compile into a cohesive mosaic. πŸ™‚

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  3. I love your rose-colored glasses, Erin! They look great on you! And the one that stands out for me – not have a dog yet. I’m sure your rose-colored glasses will lead you through a charmed life where you find out you get everything at just the right time – and pass it on to future generations!

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    1. Thank, Wynne! πŸ™‚ Yes!! I do believe that everything comes to us at just the right time. Reading you comment gave me chills, which makes me believe it all the more! Even the challenges we’re faced with are there to help guide us to our next stage and ensure we’re equipped with all the skills and tools we need to thrive. πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—

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    1. Yes, you’re so right, Brian! Expectations are bad news, while it’s cousins Hope and Optimism are a bit less rigid. Yes, getting caught in the rain isn’t too bad at all. πŸ™‚


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