Zooming Out

Last year, I attended my grandfather’s funeral. He had ninety good years, always surrounded by family and beaming with laughter. At his memorial service, people shared funny stories. There was that time he performed in Laughlin with his retirement community as the Andrews Sisters, and the three elderly men in dresses waltzed through the casino. There was the time when, in the early stages of Alzheimer’s, he tapped his cane to the beat of a musical while complaining, “this singing is shit!” There was the time he convinced his grandson to write on a school assignment that he wanted to pick up money poop at the zoo when he grew up. Everyone talked about his kindness, his humor, and his endless love for his family. We all laughed as we celebrated his life.

My grandfather had many accomplishments during his time as an executive at big telecom company. None were mentioned at his memorial service. He likely has failures and shortcomings, as well. Again, none we mentioned.

The death of a loved one helps put life into perspective, as does prolonged illness. We may realize that getting caught in the rat race or sweating over the small stuff isn’t the path to a fulfilling life. It’s far more meaningful to focus on our most critical priorities in life, and let go of the little things.

That’s what I’ll be talking about today on The Heart of the Matter.

In life, we often allow ourselves to become overwhelming by the little things without realizing their insignificance in the grander scheme. Those small annoyances us won’t even be remembered hours, days, or weeks later. Instead of dwelling on minor incidents and letting them ruin your day, consider the big picture, and allow your broader, wiser perspective to shape your outlook.

15 thoughts on “Zooming Out

  1. What a character! I wish I would have known your grandfather! And such a great way to set the stage for your post on HoTM, Erin. This adds even more perspective to knowing what matters. Love it! ❤️

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    1. I may have mentioned that in another post. That cousin was a year younger than me and I remember that conversation so vividly! Our grandpa was so enthusiastic about it that my cousin was, as well!! 🤣😂🤣 He was absolutely amazing! Such a fun, kind, and smart guy!

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  2. So I come out of a meeting upset with myself for something I didn’t do and I decide to take a quick lunch break. The first post I pull up is yours and I read that your grandfather had a long work career, but none of those details were mentioned or matter. Yup, exactly what I needed to hear Erin!!!! Thanks for the great reminder that getting overwhelmed by the little things just isn’t all that important. It’s our relationships that matter. Thank you!

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    1. I love hearing this, Brian!! It’s a reminder I often need myself, so I’m beyond pleased that the right message showed up at the right now. Now, you need to think up some amusing mischief people can talk about one day haha!! 😁

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  3. Your grandpa was presented as the real person he was, not by his labels or accomplishments. I would much rather know the real person behind the face than all the fluff that surrounds a life well lived in a genuine way. I like the reminder to let the small things go Erin, thanks!

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    1. Yes, that’s so true, Deb! We often get so tied up in what we are “supposed to be” that we can lose sight of who we *really* are, which is what truly matters in the end.

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  4. So many things to like about this post – the beautiful trees, great stories about your wonderful grandfather, a terrific HoTM post and most of all, your perspective!! ❤ ❤ ❤

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